What Does Age Have To Do With It
I would like to know opinions about what age has to do with sex. It is very alarming, to me, to hear that someone always blames the older person from what is happening between a 14 and 25 year old, or a 17 and 31 year old.
I feel that if someone is able to decide that they want to have sex, they are able to take responsibility for their actions. This means that is a 13 year old female decides to have sex with a 25 year old, it would be her choice. If on the other hand that the 25 year old manipulated the situation, then it would still fall on both parties. you thought that I was going to say it was the 25 year old’s fault, didn’t you?
Now, with that being said, the 25 year old, let’s call him Joe, Joe tricks Amy, the 13 year old, into having sex with him. Joe promises Amy the world in return for sex. Amy is now a prostitute. She has traded sex for Joe’s promises. Does anyone see something wrong with a 13 year old prostitute? Sure you do. Amy believed Joe though. Why?
I feel that if Amy’s parents had taken the time and given a little tough love, Amy wouldn’t have decided that Joe’s solicitation to her sex was not such a good idea. Amy’s parents may have taken the time though and Amy went though with it anyway. If Joe decided to have sex with Amy for 6 months and then leaves, they don’t have a child, Amy will be hurt. This is a lesson learned by Amy. She should learn from this and know what to do next time.
If for some reason that Amy gets pregnant while her and Joe are having sex then they are both equally responsible for that child, not Amy’s parents, even though it will be on their shoulders anyway. If Joe sticks around to help provide for the child that is great, and he is doing what he should do as a responsible father. If Joe leaves Amy and parents to take care of the child, Joe is a looser, ass, and any other names that would fit that type of profile. In fact, any man of any age that leaves a mother of any age would fit that bill, not just Joe vs Amy.
Amy’s choices in life will lead her to grow up. Amy’s parents should be helping with that process as much as possible, not enabling it. Amy’s parents can control some aspects of her life while she is young and under their roof. It is still Amy’s responsibility to heed to what her parents have taught her, and not do what Amy’s wants to do all of the time.
I feel that all to often people, parents, family, and friends want to put the responsibility on Joe, just because he is older. Does 15 to 16 make a difference in age? Does 17 to 18 make a difference in age? 14 to 18 makes a great deal difference in age, sometimes. It really all depends on the person. If you make a decision, you should have to live with the ramifications of that decision, not pawn it off on someone else.
If Amy decided that having sex with Joe was not a good idea or Joe decided that having sex with Amy was not a good idea, then at least one of them has a brain. If they both agree that having sex is a good idea then they are both on the same maturity level and both should be completely held accountable for their action with each other and take those responsibilities in stride, because it was their choice.
Any comments?
Tags: under age sex, sex, responsibility, fault, blame, accountable
October 11th, 2007 at 11:42 am
I think that if I walked into a school right now, today. I could have little 15 year old Amy naked by the time the day ended. Heres why, I know what she is praying to hear. I have learned this as I have grown up. Would I ever, hell no, cause it’s just gross. What you have to keep in mind is that fact that most of these young girls are being lead on. So in 99.9% of the cases it really is Joes fault. So in my opinion since Joe took her youth away. I hope that child preditor see no sun light of freedom for eons and eons.
October 11th, 2007 at 11:59 am
@Kevin:
What you fail to see as well as people are not held accountable. They just push the blame off on Joe, because he is older. Being stupid or naive is no excuse for Amy. She is not lead to run into a building that is on fire, and she is not swayed to just from a bridge. This can be applied to this situation as well, Amy has thoughts of her own, and actions have consequences, you know the ones that you blamed Joe for.
Youth of today is not they same as youth 100 years ago. In 1907, the youth were responsible. Today a Amy could commit murder and serve a life sentients, but can’t screw Joe. Why the double standard? How can you say that Amy knew what she was doing when she killed someone and not when she is having sex of her own free will?
October 11th, 2007 at 2:05 pm
I think that the differance between Amy killing someone and her being suduced is the blame of responcability. Joe is the adult and needs to be the one to make a good judgemnet call by not trying to suduce Amy in the 1st place. Thus it means that Joe is 100% at fault.
October 11th, 2007 at 2:27 pm
Joe is no more an adult then Amy is or the other way around. Amy should know not to spread her legs. I thought that no meant no, and if Joe presses forward it is rape, if Amy say yes, then it is not.
By blaming Joe for 100% that take all of the responsibility from Amy and she can have sex with whom ever she wants not matter the and and it will alway be the other persons fault. You should put blame where it belongs. It belongs on both parties, not just Joe, and I would say. What if Joe didn’t seduce Amy? What if Amy seduced Joe? Joe would still be responsible in your eyes, just be cause you feel that someone above an age can think responsibly and you have not idea of the state of their mind. You judged based on age.
October 12th, 2007 at 9:13 am
I am no saying that Amy wouldn’t be able to seduce Joe. What I am saying is that would be a rare case. Also I am not saying that 100% of the time Joe is a responciable adult. However that is the case most of the time. If Joe has some mental issuses then when he goes to court to agure his case that can be brought before the judge. As for Amy not having an conciquences, well I beg to differ, if she was seduced then she will have to suffer being taken advantage of. If she was the seducer then the truth will come out in the end and she will be held accountable for her actions I am sure.
October 14th, 2007 at 3:28 pm
I’ve never understood why one would want to sleep with a 13 or 14 year old. I wouldn’t have wanted a guy that age when I was that age. Gross.
When it comes to that young teen stuff, I do blame the parents. Not only did they not instill the kind of values and sense of self worth that keep kids from having sex way too young, they don’t have any control over their kid.
Three words for my sexually active 13 year old - TOTAL LOCK DOWN.
For me, there is a little more wiggle from in your 16, 17 year old. At that point, most cultures throughout history had people marrying at that age. Paired with sex education and responsibility, I don’t think a 17 year old and a 24 year old is totally awful.
Of course, when I was 18 I dated a couple of 28 year old guys, mostly guys in their mid twenties, and went on one date with a 32 year old. The only problem with the older guys who want the younger girls is that they tend to be hung up on the age thing.
October 15th, 2007 at 1:42 am
@ Tina - Thank you for dropping by and leaving your opinion. Yeah, the parents thing is right on the money. I just hope that I can instill self respect into my children when I start to have them.
October 18th, 2007 at 10:21 am
I work at an OB/GYN clinic for a year. Seeing all the young pregnant girls made me so sad. I can’t imagine being sexually active at 14, let alone having a baby. Worse, I’d have a 13 year old now if I’d had a baby at 14. What on earth would I do with a teenager?
October 18th, 2007 at 12:08 pm
@Tina - i don’t know what I would do either if I had a child at 14. That would put the child around the age of 14 for me right now. The good thing would be that the generation gap wouldn’t be bad. The bad thing is how do you tell a child not to do something when they see that you did it.
I don’t look at a 14 year old that is having a child sad. It is not good if they were forced into it, ie rape. If they spread their legs on their own accord, then i don’t feel sad for them.
October 27th, 2007 at 1:03 pm
A 13 year old lacks the maturity and intellect of a 25 year old, kids and adults are on totally different levels physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually…When an adult has sex with a child (13 is a child) the assumption is that the adult manipulated the child…(taking candy from a baby)…why can’t 25 year olds have sex with adults why seek sex with kids. Its disgusting.
October 29th, 2007 at 12:01 pm
@ Living Life Abundantly
How can you hold a 13 year old accountable for murder but not sex? Take a look here and tell me that children as you put it are not accountable for their actions.
If you believe that a 13 year old is not capable of lying, deceit, and seduction, then I will say that you are wrong. But we are all entitled to our opinions, sick or not.